Time Alone Together
It cannot be overemphasized.
Date nights for husbands and wives are just crucial no matter how long you've
been married. This takes more intentional effort especially when you
start having kids.
Whether you go out on a
dinner in a nice, affordable restaurant, or simply watch a movie together, or
go do a little shopping together ---as long as it is
just the two of you doing something together alone---
it counts as a date.
My husband and I practice
this to this very day. There are times our talk over dinner would go for an hour.
Then there are times too when silence is just as comfortable and
sweet as our long intimate talks. How so, I cannot figure out. I guess that is
the beauty of deep intimacy. There is no need for words to fill in a
quiet moment. Just enjoying each other's presence says a
lot.
At least go out on a date
twice a month. When you do so, try to avoid talking about work. Talk about your
dreams, or the things God has been showing you in your heart. Talk about
your plans as a family, your insights about your children, your inspirations
and aspirations. Laugh together, and laugh at your husband’s
jokes, for crying out loud! It is the time to affirm one another and appreciate
each other. It is the time to say, “You’ve
been really intense with your work and I’m so proud of how you
value what you do.” You don’t have to say it in
those words but whatever style you prefer, a husband can use some praise and
affirmation from his wife. When you affirm your husband, you too will benefit
from his pleasing disposition!
Date night. It's
your marriage pep talk time. It's that second half
time out in the professional sport of married life. Make it count. It can
affect the next quarter of the game ---for good or for bad.
Hopefully, for good!
